I grew up thinking that love was about a deep emotional connection between two people, but the more I look around the more it seems to be a fairy tale that I still believe in.

How many people do you know who are together because they find each other unbelievable, because no one else just “does it” for them. What seems to happen is people just get together for “warmth” – just like animals, people congregate and eventually settle to enjoy social life, have sex, and maybe eventually even have children. We are animals after all, but what about intelligence to make decisions beyond simple needs? We are given a bigger brain an ability to factor in the complexity of life, so why don’t we! Or maybe we are, maybe while I am writing this at 2am on Saturday night I am just ignoring the reality, while all those people getting wasted at a club are actually dealing with the complexities?
[update: Apparently this is confusing. What I am trying to say is as follows: it is not bad to go to the clubs and drink, sometimes it is fun and enjoyable. However, what I see a lot of people do (because they talk about it) is go to bars/clubs as a way of dealing with issues. Basically, when you are drunk there are no issues, and I don't think this is the way to go. Life is full of difficulties and we can't run away from all of them so the faster we learn to tackle them and turn it into advantages, the fast we can make our lives better. I strongly believe my life can be as good as it can possibly be, I just need to work at it harder and smarter.]

I find this really sad; we should be progressing towards a brighter future and I just don’t see how the society in general is going to achieve it. I only know of a handful family friends who were together since college/high school, and who are still as in love as ever before. Everyone else around though seems to be in a relationship because it was either “the time to get married”, or they were getting old to have kids, or they were just lonely and somebody ‘nice’ came around. If you don’t smile every moment you see your loved ones, if your heart bit doesn’t go up every time you touch, if you don’t think of them every waking moment apart, then why bother?

A buddy suggested that perhaps so many marriages fall apart today because people think love is forever. I think it’s quite the opposite, people don’t think love is forever and then once their curiosity and sex drive run out, they see no reason to be with each other. In that light, I admire the older people you sometimes see walk on the streets, holding hands. I look at them and think there’s still hope, there is truth in the fairy tale.

To finish with a song: Grace Weber – Sparrows